If you map out any task from the start line to the finish line there are going to be parts that you love and parts that you hate. Procrastination occurs whenever you focus on the nightmare you hate. Productivity happens whenever you focus on the dream you love. When I was working on Read More →
Your Internal GPS-How anxiety can make you lose your way
Your internal GPS was designed to help you chase your dreams, anxiety resets your GPS to make you run away from nightmares. Now at any moment in your life you are either chasing a dream or you are running away from a nightmare. Your brain has just 2 gears, forward and reverse, you are Read More →
ANGER MANAGEMENT 101: Your anger is either coming from your present, your past or your present amplified by your past.
You are standing in line at Starbucks to get your morning coffee and a guy in a blue shirt comes up, cuts in front of you in line and then, for no reason, he stomps on your toe as hard as he can. All of a sudden your heart rate zooms up from 70 to 140 beats per minute as the Read More →
Stress management 2.0: Simple ways to stop stressing
Your body and brain were designed to handle short bursts of stress to help you get away from lions and tigers and bears. Once you are safe your stress response is supposed to go back down to its 0 baseline. When you are chronically stressed and especially when your stress response never Read More →
The Secret Purpose of Flashbacks
A flashback is really just your brain's instant replay button. Flashbacks are memories that are so vivid that they seem like they happened yesterday even if they occurred years or decades ago. Simply recalling them causes you to reexperience most or all of the emotional reactions you had Read More →
If You Can Make It Worse You Can Make It Better.
The first law of emotional dynamics is: If you can make it worse you can make it better. So it's really good news if just remembering a panic attack makes you anxious, if thinking about an old hurt makes you depressed, if recalling a past insult gets your blood boiling. This is because, Read More →
THE LIMITS OF TALK THERAPY
While traditional talk therapy can help many people with many types of problems, recent research suggests that it has a massive achilles heal that can cause it to fail you when you need it most. Researchers at NYU had student volunteers come in and watch a computer screen while Read More →
What Made Me React Like That? The Hidden Effect of Unconscious Flashbacks
Do you know anyone who has over-the-top reactions that don't make any sense in the present? They may have had an UNCONSCIOUS FLASHBACK. There are two kinds of flashbacks, conscious flashbacks and unconscious flashbacks. When a car backfire triggers a memory of mortar fire to pop into a Read More →
The Strangers Within You – Your Emotional and Body Brains
So how can you have emotional reactions that don’t make sense to you, that don’t seem to be under your control? To understand this you have to understand how your brain is wired. Your brain can be divided into 3 parts. Make a fist with your right hand, then cover your fist with your Read More →